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The best way, to win and succeed in life, is to develop an attractive personality of yourself to others.  Though, one may get a fair deal of the important part that mental attitude plays in the affairs of an individual's life by considering the fact that it influences the tone of voice, the expression of the face, the posture of the body, and modifies every word that is spoken, as well as determining the nature of every emotion one feels.

The best way, to win and succeed in life, is to develop an attractive personality of yourself to others.  Though, one may get a fair deal of the important part that mental attitude plays in the affairs of an individual's life by considering the fact that it influences the tone of voice, the expression of the face, the posture of the body, and modifies every word that is spoken, as well as determining the nature of every emotion one feels.


But, it does more than these; As it modifies every thought one releases, thereby extending its influence to all within its range, through the principle of telepathy.  For the sake of contrast, let us list some of the disagreeable things that a bad mental attitude causes.
Firstly, it dampens a man's enthusiasm, secondly, curtails his initiative, thirdly, overthrows his self-control, fourthly, subdues his imagination, fifthly, undermines his desire to be co-operative, sixthly, makes him sullen and intolerant, and seventhly, as if these were not enough damage to insure a man's failure, it puts on the finishing touch by throwing power out of gear.
These are but a few of the ways in which a negative mental attitude may damage the individual himself, quite apart from the damage he does to others, through his negative influences.  A lawyer who goes into court with a bad mental attitude will find the court and the jury opposing him, although he may have a perfectly just case.
And also, the doctor who comes into the presence of his patients with a negative mental attitude will do them more harm than good, although he may be skilled in the knowledge of his profession.
Thus, a man may have all the culture modern civilization can provide, and he may have a string of degrees after his name, and he may be the most skilled man in his field, but he will be a failure, as surely as one plus one equals two, if he carries a bad mental attitude around with him.
One thing people simply will not tolerate over a long time is a negative mental attitude.  Hear this now; a positive mental attitude can be developed by understanding and applying all of the factors of an attractive personality.
One of the factors of personality development is flexibility.  By this term I refer to the ability to adapt one's self to quickly changing circumstances, and emergencies, without losing one's sense of value.
Listen, a man with a flexible disposition must be something like a chameleon, the little number of the reptile family that quickly changes its colour to harmonize with its environment.  Without this ability an attractive personality is hardly possible, as the over changing conditions of life and of human relationships require individual adaptability.
Some men are uncharitable enough to blame their misfortunes on others, but the truth is that every man is where he is and what he is because of his own mental attitude as it is expressed through his personality.
Hear this, it would be a blessing if all public and private schools make the study of attractive personality a must requirement of their curriculum.  Because, young people should be taught, very early in life, that no amount of schooling will insure their success unless they learn to negotiate with others pleasantly.
Also, sincerity of purpose, is the third important factors of developing a pleasant personality.  This is one character trait for which there has never been found a satisfactory substitute.  Sincerity of purpose, or the lack of it, writes itself so indelibly into the words and deeds of men that even the novice at character analysis can recognize its presence or its absence.
The insincere person announces his weakness in every word he speaks, in the expression of his face, in the trend of his conversation, in his choice of intimate associates, in the sort of service he renders in connection with his occupation, and in other ways that are less noticeable, and this despite the fact that he may be a skilled actor with great ability to camouflage his real nature.
Another factor is promptness of decision.  Observe men wherever you will, and you will notice that those who dilly-dally around, trying to make up their minds, are neither popular nor successful.
This is a fast moving world in which we live and those who do not move quickly cannot keep up with the parade.  Successful men reach decisions definitely and quickly, and they become annoyed and inconvenienced by others who do not act promptly.
I call your attention to the fact that promptness of decision is a habit, and therefore it is definitely related to and a part of one's mental attitude.  I call your attention, also, to the close relationship between promptness of decision and definiteness of purpose; thus you will observe that these traits of personality have a very direct connection with the entire principles of achievement.
We live in a country where individual achievement is possible on a grand scale, because of the abundance of opportunity on every hand; but opportunity waits for no man.  The man with the vision to recognize opportunity, and the promptness to decision to embrace it, will get ahead.
This is the rule of the world.  It makes a place for the person who knows exactly what he wants, and is determined to get it.
Next essential elements of a pleasing personality, I will mention, is a pair of twin brothers.  The first one is the tone of voice. The spoken word is the medium through which one expresses his personality most often.   A man who has developed a hundred per cent attractive personality knows how to convey, through the tone of his voice, every emotion he feels.
He can express anger, fear, curiosity, contempt, doubt, affection, courage, sincerity, derision, anxiety, and a wide range of other feelings.  Moreover, he makes it a habit to control his voice every time he speaks, for it is only through habit that one reaches perfection in the dramatization of speech.
The price of perfection here, as is true in so many other things, is eternal practice.  If no teacher of voice is at hand, one can become his own teacher by practicing before a mirror until he gains perfection.
As I round off, the second of the pair of the twin brothers is the habit of smiling.  Do not make the mistake of feeling that the simple habit of smiling is not an important part of one's personality, and do not forget that it is a habit that is directly associated with mental attitude.
I suggest, you just try smiling when you are angry.  Remember this; you should stand before a mirror when practicing voice control, because there are certain expressions of speech which you cannot dramatize properly unless they are accompanied by a smile.  I expect this list to be of immeasurable benefits as a check-up on your personality today.



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